I’m A Bad Mom, So What

 

I’m a Bad Mom… so what. Sorry, not sorry.

Every Bad Mom has their own definition of the meaning. And every Bad Mom has their own reasons for being “bad”.

If you haven’t watched the movie Bad Moms (which you totally should) I’m sure you’d have seen one or another movie where there are characters playing the perfect group of Soccer Moms.

You know the ones that are on the PTA and bakes the most beautiful cake for the bake sale? There’s absolutely nothing wrong with being that perfect Mom, in fact, some of us (including me) may aspire to be that Mom at times – but realistically – that is just NOT me!

And honestly….I don’t feel bad about it. Here’s why

I have me-days

Sometimes I leave the kids alone with my husband for a few hours, I do a bit of shopping or have my nails done and may even book a spa day!

I honestly do it for my own sanity as well as my family’s well-being. After just a couple of hours on my own, I feel recharged and I actually get a chance to “miss them”. When I get home, my kids run into my open arms – and I get the best hugs ever.

I go on girls nights

Not only do I enjoy spending time with my friends, but I’ve even ventured out when one of my kids were ill. Yep, I really did. And you know what? I enjoyed myself. The kids were asleep when I left the house and still asleep when I got home. They didn’t even realise I was out. So what’s the big deal?

I forget about School Meetings

If it wasn’t for the school secretary, I would have probably missed a few school meetings or forgot to hand in forms. But thanks to her lovely reminders, I haven’t really missed anything major. So what if I did? I’m sure I could have got up to date some way or another.

I don’t  cook Dinner

I’ve said it before, I’m not a superstar in the Kitchen. My husband is and I love him for that. So do I feel guilty about it? Not really. Afterall, I am the one that has to make sure the cupboards and fridge are stocked up so that he can actually cook up these amazing meals.

I love my hobbies and won’t give them up

I love writing, reading and going to the gym. It’s what keeps me sane every day of the week. So there is no way I’m giving that up. I make time for these things and try to involve the kids as far as possible, in fact, Alyssa is over the moon about going to the gym with me.

I get angry in front of my kids

I’m really no Mary Poppins. I get upset, I have Mommy Meltdowns and I don’t run away when I need to shed a tear. Emotions are totally normal and my kids need to learn how to deal with them. I won’t be the first nor the last person to show emotion in front of them, so best they know now that it’s normal. Of course, we chat about it afterward.

Gosh, I sound really bad… but it’s so bad that I don’t even feel bad about it! Ha ha

Are you a Bad Mom too?

Images: Curtis Golden Photography

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12 Comments

  1. Carly Clarke October 23, 2017

    Awesome read .

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    • Hayley October 23, 2017

      Thanks for reading Carly ❤️

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  2. Kariema October 23, 2017

    HI
    I watched the movie when it was released on dstv. Loved it. Even posted on my Facebook wall I was #proudlybadMom.
    There is so much pressure on being the perfect mom instead of supporting each other. So yes. #proudlybadmom and my kids love it. We enjoy ourselves immensely just being ourselves and learning and growing together.

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    • Hayley October 23, 2017

      So true Kariema! We all just doing the best we can x

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  3. Lisa bartlett October 23, 2017

    LOVE this babe! xoxo

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  4. Claire October 23, 2017

    When I was in primary school, I was required to knit a teddy bear (which even then was not my thing), so my mom did it for me. I thought I would get top marks, but the teacher said, “sis Claire, you can do better!) Ha ha! I told my mom this morning I am thankful i don’t have one of those moms who says, “it must be done like this”. You are one of those moms, and that makes you a great mom.

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    • Hayley October 23, 2017

      Lol I can so relate to those school days. That was our Moms way of doing their best for us but we learned the hard way

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  5. Melissa Javan October 24, 2017

    yessss. Good read. glad that you’re taking care of you. a happy mom is happy kids

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  6. Briony Brookes October 25, 2017

    Yes you say that you don’t feel bad but you’ve realized what you need to help you actually be the best mom you can be. At the end of the day we are all human. We love our kids endlessly but being a mom, a wife, a friend, a sister certainly isn’t easy and it’s ok to raise your hand and say you need help. I’ve realized over the years that you need to be the most important person to you…commit to you first and the rest will follow

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    • Hayley October 25, 2017

      Ah… you are so right B. Without self love everything seems impossible ❤️

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  7. candice naidu October 25, 2017

    Gosh.. amazing read.. now I feel normal. ITS REALLY HARD SOMETIMES, BUT I KNOW IN MY HEART I DO THE BEST FOR MY KIDS AND AS MUCH AS WE SAY WE ARE baD MOTHERS WE ARE AWESOME MOMMIES IN SO MANY WAY…

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