On my mind – sibling age gaps

photoSince we’ve shared the news of my pregnancy with #2, many people have asked and commented about what the age gap will be between Alyssa and #2. I never really thought about it that much before, but it’s got me thinking lately. Alyssa will be +-2 years and 2 months older than her brother.

So what is the ideal age gap to have between children? The truth is there’s no one-size-fits-all solution. It’s up to you to work out what length of gap may suit your family best. There are however pros and cons to smaller and larger gaps.

I read the is hilarious article about what happens when there is a huge age gap between you and your sibling – partly true I know, as there is an almost 6 year gap between my only brother and I. Both my husband and I have a large age gap between our only siblings and it seems we are almost generations apart. When the one was in primary school the other was in high school for example, which kind of separates you even more. This was one of the reasons we wanted a smaller age gap between Alyssa and her sibling, but there are a few more.

Alyssa will be 2 soon, she’s confident and very independent, has developed a vocabulary, sleeps very well and will hopefully adapt quite fine. She will also be starting school half-day in January and we are hoping that she will be learning skills to help her better deal with sharing.

The time also just seemed right for us. We’ve had some time to recover from those few months of sleepless nights, breast feeding and countless nappies when Alyssa first arrived and are mentally prepared to go through all of that again.

Not mentioning a number, but my husband is older than me and he specifically wants to be as young and healthy as possible while our kids are growing up.

Of course we cannot predict how all of this will all pan out but we can only do our best to prepare her for that day when baby arrives (I still need to do my research on this). Having a 2 year gap doesn’t also necessarily mean that they will immediately become best pals and start playing together – this too will take time.

What are your thoughts on sibling age gaps?

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  1. Cindy December 8, 2014

    There is no perfect gap – you make it work no matter what. We had a year and 2 week gap with our girls and it was crazy but now they are inseparable. Knox came after a 2 year gap and that felt much better than the first gap.

    • hayleysjoys December 9, 2014

      I agree Cindy – we will just take it a day at a time.

  2. melanieblignaut December 10, 2014

    My girls are 2 years 1 month apart, which I’d always thought would be a good age gap. The first year was really hard (for me) but now that they’re older (4 and 2) they’ve already got a great bond and I’m sure they’ll stay close as they grow up.


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