The other day we were out for lunch and as we were leaving, Aidan had a bit of a fall outside of the restaurant. He bumped his head and scraped it open. I saw blood. I felt like fainting.
He and Kurt were walking ahead of me and Alyssa, so we could almost watch it unfold.
It was clearly an accident but for some reason, I felt angry.
Nevermind the child who’s bleeding and crying, I was so just so furious that it happened.
I was mad at myself for not preventing it. I was upset with Kurt for not preventing it.
I felt angry at the restaurant for not having supervision.
I felt I needed someone to blame, even though it was just an accident.
So why did I feel that way?
As I read the numerous stories of kids drowning in their homes over the holiday season, I feel their Parents pain. I couldn’t imagine the utter torment and hardship they must be going through right now. It really got to me.
Then I read comments on those articles, saying…
“Where were the parents?”
“Children need constant supervision. Those parents should be put behind bars.”
I’m sure the circumstances in every case differs but accidents do happen AND they happen in the blink of an eye!
Luckily for us, Aidan just had a minor cut and bruise and is doing fine but I got the taste of just how quickly accidents can happen and how helpless you as a parent can feel.
I can also totally understand how the blame game could have an effect on those parents who lost their children. It’s human nature to find a reason, to make someone accountable in order to find reasoning behind what happened. Sometimes that blaming won’t even be rational.
Those wounds will take years and years to heal….
As much as we would like to protect our children with cotton wool, it’s just not possible 100% of the time.
I literally feel like getting Aidan a helmet to wear 24/7 and to paste FRAGILE stickers on his t-shirt! He is just so busy and has no fear, it scares me so much.
How do you feel and overcome your emotions when your kid gets hurt? I would really love to hear…