Toddler Tantrums! 


Whether its the terrible two’s or the transition with the new sibling, I’m not sure but Alyssa is definitely going through a significant change in behaviour.

Listening to Mom and Dad is just not happening, throwing food off her plate, crying for no apparent reason, hanging on Dads ear (literally) whenever she gets a chance, waking up during the night crying and screaming for milk – these are just some of the things which she has been doing lately. We’ve done all we can to make the transition of 2 kids easier for her and we seemed to have made some progress but then life happened. Mom had to spend a week in hospital with baby bro and we were back to square one.

I try to make a habit of just Mommy and Daughter time at least once a week and she is so well behaved during this time. On the public holiday, we attended a kiddies birthday party – just her and I – and she was an absolute pleasure, we really had so much fun. Once we were back home though, the antics started once again. Dad spoils her rotten and he will do anything for her. I think she knows this all too well. We are struggling to find effective ways of disciplining her. We’ve tried time-outs, time-ins and are  just running out of steam.

Striking a pose before the party

Striking a pose before the party


She’s a lot more tolerant of her brother now though. She seems to understand that he has to get bathed and fed at certain times. She knows he is here to stay. The tantrums she throws don’t seem to be directly linked to his needs anymore.

At school she is generally well behaved and her teacher hasn’t highlighted any issues so this type of behavior is only happening at home.

I guess there isn’t one specific reason….we are going to have to just practice some good old patience with her!

(She’s still my little angel pudding pie though… 🙂 )

Do you have any tips for dealing with tantrums and meltdowns? I would really love to hear.



  1. Zayaan Schroeder June 19, 2015

    We’re going through the exact same thing with Rushdi and I’m at my wits end! He keeps hitting us and I don’t know how to make him stop! Good luck with Alyssa.

    • hayleysjoys June 19, 2015

      It’s terrible Zayaan!!! I hope it’s a stage that passes very quickly

  2. Luchae Williams June 19, 2015

    No advice here, but I am learning lots for when my 8 month old turns 2 next year! Aaaaack!! I always said I want a little diva, but now I dont know anymore hahhahaha

  3. Jozi Wahm June 19, 2015

    My daughter was similar after my son was born and it seemed to peak about three months after he was born even though she still got plenty of attention. Hang in there, hopefully it is just a passing phase.

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